National Paper Endorses Revenge Bullying, This Blogger Sees Red

National Paper Endorses Revenge Bullying, This Blogger Sees Red

Some backstory: Local blogging sensation Xiaxue was subjected to a series of sexist, insulting attacks on the Facebook post on Singapore’s own Mos Eisley, the Temasek Review. In response, she went to the trolls’ Facebook pages, took their publicly-posted pictures and personal information, posted them to her own site and mocked their figurative pants off. As she is enormously popular, this generated a huge (and positive) response online. The Straits Times picked up on this and ran an article about it.

Let me explain why I think this A Very Bad Thing.

For the record, I detest the twin terrors of the Temasek Times/Temasek Review. They promote xenophobia and encourage vicious witch-hunts. I won’t even sully my website by linking to them. I wish the sites they were hosted on would vanish into a black hole and never reemerge.

Personally, however, I don’t think singling out users and sharing their information online, as Xiaxue did, was the right thing to do. I disagree with her methods. I disagree with her views.

But that’s not the point here. It is her blog and she is free to do what she chooses. What I want to address is the Straits Times getting in on the action.


Let’s put aside the issue of “How is this even news?!”. It is the smaller of the two issues here–and really, you could do worse than running frivolous stuff in a newspaper, even a national one. Let’s instead talk about “WHY IN THE WORLD ARE THEY ENDORSING THIS SORT OF BEHAVIOUR”.

Just look at the language used in the headline and the article. “Fights back against Facebook abuse”. The second paragraph: “She is fighting back by posting their photos and information on her blog, in an attempt to show that they do not have much of a leg to stand on in the looks and intelligence department themselves.” The fact that they even highlight that she posted their photos and personal information on her blog and painting this in a positive light is shocking.

I won’t even bother with gems in her post like “I also dislike bangalas” [sic] and “They shouldn’t be quarrelsome and petty. That’s for women to do.” Xiaxue posted pictures of her targets’ wives and young children in her blog post. Let me repeat in huge bold letters just in case it’s not clear how problematic this is: SHE POSTED PHOTOS OF MINORS UNDER TEN YEARS OLD IN ORDER TO SCORE POINTS AGAINST HER BULLIES. Toddlers and young children who have nothing, absolutely nothing to do with whatever comments their fathers have been doing in dark corners of the Internet. THIS IS THE KIND OF THING THE STRAITS TIMES IS PROMOTING.

Xiaxue doing it: Whatever. It’s her prerogative. It’s her blog, as I’ve said. None of my business. But the Straits Times endorsing this sort of behaviour? Appalling. APPALLING. They are the biggest English-language newspaper in this country. You know that over-used line from the Spiderman film? Great power, great responsibility? Where is the Straits Times’ sense of journalistic responsibility? By running this article you are saying to the public, it is okay to witch-hunt others if they insult you on the Internet. You are saying to the public, it is okay to drag their spouses and children and employers into the fray because of what they said on Facebook. I have no word for that other than terrible.

Seriously, if journalistic standards demand that names be kept secret in court case reporting to protect the identity of minors, how can you justify endorsing a blogpost that pulls this kind of stunt?

Recently, Minister for Information, Information, Communications and the Arts, Dr Yaacob Ibrahim, called for a national online code of conduct as a way to ensure constructive dialogue on the Internet. Colour me crazy, but hardly think that this sort of liver-for-an-eye behaviour was what he was talking about. And the Straits Times is usually so good at toeing the ministerial line.

My expectations for the Straits Times’ coverage of local issues are usually pretty dire. This time, they’ve managed to get past that and disappoint me. Well done.


Right. I can’t end this blogpost without addressing the many, many responses I’ve seen –which also broadly includes the Straits Times article, from the language used– that are painting this as some sort of a win for women, all “rah-rah feminism!!” I can understand why. On the surface, it looks good: Men posting in a misogynistic space (which the Temaseks are) hurl unwarranted sexist insults at woman blogger and friends. She hits back by exposing and shaming them publicly. Spunky woman 1, sexist douchbags 0. It’s inspiring, yeah?

I have to disagree.

Xiaxue is an enormously popular blogger. Her site gets 40,000 hits a day. She has won numerous regional and international blog awards. When she ripped apart a US dudebro using her pictures to fake himself a Korean girlfriend, her exposé hit the big leagues on Reddit. There are very few other bloggers in Singapore who enjoy the kind of popularity, the kind of wide-reaching fanbase, that she does. Xiaxue is very distinctly not “just a random girl” as she was quoted saying, she is Xiaxue! A brand unto herself. It doesn’t any get simpler than that.

All the people who are going “Good! Finally a strong woman standing up to sexist comments!” seem to forget that the majority of women who experience misogynist bullying, both online and in real life, do not have the reach and power that a blogger the stature of Xiaxue has. They don’t have the option of naming and shaming their bullies like Xiaxue does. They have no power: That is the point of misogyny.

Furthermore, the idea that it is up to bullied/oppressed women to stand up to their tormentors by bullying them back is problematic. More often than not,  individual women who “take a stand” against their bullies have to suffer consequences. See the case of Ms Nafissatou Diallo, the hotel cleaner who brought charges of sexual assault against Dominique Strauss-Kahn. The prosecution dug up all sorts of dirt on her, got the case dismissed (despite other women also coming forward with sexual misconduct allegations, hinting at a long-running pattern), and now DSK is counter-suing her for US$1 million because he didn’t get to run for French President. Imagine that, a multi-millionaire suing an immigrant cleaner for a million dollars. Ridiculous!

In the end, cheering and applauding Xiaxue’s post does not further the cause of feminism because it fails to address the root of the problem: The sexism that still persists across society. All it does, in the end, is endorse ad hominem attacks in place of proper discourse. Cherian George ended off his blogpost on the issue (link down) with a gang war analogy: You pull a knife, I pull a gun. But that will just leave you a field of dead bodies. And that’s not helpful at all.


**From a feminist’s point of view, there is more nuance to this issue that involves digging into internalised misogyny, playing into gender-based stereotypes, and all that fun stuff. But that’s a whole other shindig that’s beyond the scope of this post…

25 thoughts on “National Paper Endorses Revenge Bullying, This Blogger Sees Red

    1. !!! A Filipina friend did mention this story, but she didn’t have a link to the specific post so I had no idea it was this bad! Also, the bit at the end where she “changed her story” — wow, rape culture at its BEST. :/

    2. My one major interaction with XiaXue was on twitter after she posted that fat girls should take it as a compliment if people think they’re pregnant because it means someone thought they were fuckable.

      When you run around making comments like that, you immediately disqualify yourself as a feminist. You do not empower your gender by acting like a middle school mean girl, tearing down other women.

      FAIL FAIL FAIL all around. None of it is appropriate, none of it is major news.

  1. But, seriously let’s face it what she has done will bring change amongst the men & media who hide behind FB to say nasty things to a whole lot of people.

    1. Sadly, I don’t think so– it’ll just stop them slamming high-profile targets like Xiaxue. The usual targets of their vitriol – foreign workers etc – don’t have the same kind of bully-back power that she has.

    2. I have to agree with June here. I don’t think that she will bring change amongst men and media at all. She did not teach these men not to abuse women. She taught them not to abuse Xiaxue.

  2. problem: The sexism that still persists

    The same national paper that is apparently condemning the vitriol probably has a picture of a semi-naked woman selling something or rather or a woman who’s lost weight … it’s simply going to reinforce ill-treatment of BOTH men and women by reducing them to things.

    Put it together and you get what should be cognitive dissonance. Is this the best we can do?

  3. I never figured why people read her blog. She’s proven herself to be a vindictive and vulgar bully from day 1. ST published the story because she was pro-PAP and anti-opposition in that same post..She would have been thrilled with the free advertisement from ST

  4. ok, um I think I would be in the minority here but, I would like if you wrote a piece specifically about the “fun stuff”. You know paint a more nuance picture about the whole incident vis a vis the reinforcement of gender stereotypes. Cause I’m fun like that.

    1. I might. There’s plenty of material–an embarrassment of riches, in fact– to back up the argument that Xiaxue Should Not Be A Feminist Icon. I stayed away from it because I didn’t want to start critiquing who Xiaxue is as a person in this post.

  5. The ST is nothing better than the pappy propaganda machine print medium. So ST and XX are two of the same thing – just so much trash, one in print the other in virtual print.

  6. An eye for an eye anyone?

    I really dislike Xiaxue’s values and I’m embarassed that she’s so popular. One only hopes that the international community doesn’t picture her face when they think of Singapore. Having said that, I agree with her right to disagree..

    “I do not agree with what you have to say, but I’ll defend to the death your right to say it. ” – Voltaire

    1. Ladies and gentlemen: The level of discourse conducted by misogynists. (Approved for the lulz)

  7. I ceased reading her garbage ever since she dissed a handicapped person who made a fuss over her friend who occupied the handicap’s toilet. IMO, your friend was in the wrong and when you are wrong you say sorry and you shut up for a long time. The fact that she then took up her friend’s case and publicly dissed that handicap person shows she is nothing more but immoral and attention seeking. She being a PAP-lackey further lowered my already low-opinion of her.

    Die by the sword you wield, Xiasuay. Frankly, when she has been dissing people the way she has always done, she deserved what she has gotten even when I have an equally low opinion on people who posts on Terbalik Revue or Terbalik Times (and at times, even those who reads regularly the crap on all flavors of seemingly anti-establishment sites with the name “Terbalik” in its name).

    1. I do agree that a lot of what Xiaxue does is morally grey if not outright reprehensible, but it’s unfortunate that those targeting her are readers of the Temaseks, who opted for the easiest way out to insult her, by using her gender against her. Calling her a “whore” has no relevance to what she’s actually said or done…

    2. Hello!

      I’d just like to point out that your allegations of berating a handicapped person is, as with so much else on the internet, a figment of your imagination/word of mouth mistruths.

      If you read the exact words carefully, you will realise that the entire post is an opinion regarding a situation observed by her brother. So in actual fact, neither her nor her brother nor anyone she knows is involved with the handicapped person.

      Subsequently the furore surrounds her opinion that people should be free to use the handicapped toilet when there are no handicapped persons around.

      Remember, always fact check yourself otherwise you’re just a Terbalik!


  8. Hi Ms Hallelujah,

    This ia a good write-up. Can I have your permission to repost on TR Emeritus (TRE)?


    p.s. TRE has got nothing to do with Temasek Times and Temasek Review Facebook…

    1. Thanks for the offer, but I am not comfortable with having the post reproduced on another site. Perhaps just a link will do?

  9. Don’t get me wrong, I love your blog and tweets. But are you saying those guys weren’t misogynistic bullies because the victim happened to be a power blogger?

    1. Absolutely not! I’m saying that just because the guys are misogynist asswipes (which they are) doesn’t mean it’s okay for Xiaxue to target them the way she did–esp not bringing their wives and children into it–and it’s definitely not okay for the Straits Times to highlight this sort of behaviour without criticism (aside from a few soundbites as a token balancing out of the views).

  10. Xiaxiue’s popularity and her endorsement by ST reflects the very sad state of our collective psyche. The vision of a more gracious society gets blurred with every new unique visitor Xiaxue and bloggers like her get every day. I find it very encouraging that a number of people have condemned Xiaxue for what she did and for ST’s report. Thank you MissHallelujah and Cherian George for your posts, and for TOC for featuring them.

  11. I just read on Xiaxue’s blog the old entry in which she states that:
    Good looking men cannot be rapists because they don’t need to resort to rape. And if they do rape someone, it wouldn’t be traumatic BECAUSE THEY ARE GOOD LOOKING.

    Even the most misogynistic person I know would not say that. Most rapists probably wouldn’t say that. WTF.

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